Humanurture Founder Kate Airey - Impacting the World One Step at a Time
Happy International Women’s Day
In celebration I thought I would tell you a little bit about me, how Humanurture came to fruition, and the philosophies I live by.
I have been extremely fortunate to have flowed through life with a very laid-back approach, often going against the grain when it comes to life decisions, very low key and inconspicuous. I am a deep thinker and I’m always looking for the next adventure. I have often felt like a wanderer, immersing myself in each part of life, meeting new people and experiencing new environments, and then blissfully moving on to the next. If it wasn’t for social media I wouldn’t have contact with many old friends and acquaintances, it’s just how I am.
When I met my husband, we made the decision to have children early on, I was 26 when Zac our first little boy was born, and it shook our world to the core, in the most incredible, yet life changing way. I am an ‘All or Nothing’ kind of person, so parenthood has been at the forefront of my mind ever since. We then went on to have our second little boy Sammy, and the tale of life continues.
As a woman I think it is very difficult to re-establish your identity once having children. The boys became my world and foremost priority, yet for many of my early years of motherhood I often craved a part of my former self that I felt had been lost in an abyss. I struggled with the acceptance that most of our parental administration often landed in my direction. And it is something that continues to rear its head as I navigate growing a business and being fully present in family life. It’s not a criticism towards my husband, he’s incredible. But we think differently, and society, culture and generational evolution all play their part in maternal and paternal roles. It’s a working progress, and that’s what matters.
I’d like to share with you the philosophies in which I live by that sculpts the way I choose to live my life every day. These philosophies have also guided Humanurture’s direction, and I hope will help my children as they grow.
Together is Better - ‘Surround yourself with great people’
Humanurture was created off the back of a comment ‘You should do this Kate’ from our Relationships Manager Sue, who believed in my ability to build a corporate wellbeing organisation before I did. Over the last two years the Humanurture team has organically grown attracting the most professional, knowledgeable, and wholesome people. I am forever grateful for the team who not only add value to my life but add value to the businesses we work with and the employees who are ultimately the engines of those businesses.
Learn to Delegate
I remember listening to a podcast with Richard Branson. He talked about how he learned to delegate well. He surrounds himself with people who are better than him at certain things. He gains energy from their passion and a deep trust is built. This means that he can question, learn, and innovate. He does not create groundbreaking concepts by himself. He does not get it right all the time, but he is willing to try and fail, and try again, not alone, but with his people.
Energisers v. Drains
This is such an important concept to consider. Whether we like it or not, we are influenced by the people we spend our time with. They impact our mood, our conversations, and our energy. Here is a very simple definition of energisers and drains:
Energisers – people who energise us
Drains – people who drain our energy
We can’t always spend our time with energisers. Some of the people we love may drain our energy, not intentionally may I add. We may have work colleagues, friends or even family members that fall into this category. Not because they are bad people; we live in a far more complex world than just good or bad. People have stories and we must respect that and support them in the best way we can. It just means that we need to consider how we replenish our energy when it is depleted. This can be in the form of selfcare, exercise and activities that we enjoy - reading, music, cooking, or making a conscious effort to spend time with those who energise us.
And it leads me very nicely on to the next point.
Self-Awareness & Understanding Others
I have a deep fascination with people and human behaviour. I believe that learning about ourselves and others is crucial to a wholesome life. It helps us to feel less alone, and it helps us to understand who we are. Life is full of complexities, trauma, and curve balls. It’s part of the shared human experience. When we can put ourselves in other people’s shoes it is a superpower. A superpower that takes time, unlearning and relearning, but a superpower that ultimately connects us.
When Helen our leadership coach and Insights Discovery practitioner first joined the Humanurture team, both Sue and I completed the Insights Discovery Profile. Insights Discovery is a psychometric tool based on the work of Carl Jung. It is built to help people understand themselves, understand others, and make the most of the relationships that affect them in the workplace. It has added so much value to my life, both in my personal and professional relationships. I believe that so many people get stuck on the treadmill of life. Einstein is often attributed as saying: ‘The definition of insanity is doing something over and over again and expecting a different result’. Take the time to step off the treadmill. Learn about yourself, learn to build more meaningful relationships with others, and most of all remember we all have a story which moulds and shapes us in this life. What we know about people is usually not much deeper than surface level, stay out of judgement and try to put yourself in their shoes.
Be More Roo
This became the Airey mantra through lockdown. Roo is our outrageously beautiful Cockapoo. If you have a dog, you may have noticed that they reap joy from the simple things and live totally in the moment. In a society that expects us to be busy and contactable 24/7, I think humans can learn a lot from a dog’s natural ability to be fully present. In November, my mum was diagnosed with Grade 3 Breast Cancer. It has been an emotional rollercoaster, but one thing that has become very evident is my mum’s knew found ability to describe all the simple yet beautiful things in life vividly and vibrantly. The things that we take for granted every single day, usually because we are in a rush. I have learnt to slow down and prioritise. I love Brene Brown’s quote on wholehearted living ‘No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough’. Slow down, find joy in the ordinary and be present. Don’t use lack of time as an excuse. You get to make the choices. You must give yourself the permission to say ‘No’ guilt free. Life isn’t easy, it is fast and furious, but you get to navigate your life. Be brave. I am proud and inspired by my mum's bravery.